05/07/2020
Mom Knows Best – 13 Bits of Life Advice

05/07/2020

Although we are apart, I started to realize how much of my mom's advice and nurturing is actually a huge presence in my life and no, this is not some therapist jargon or Freud post. Some things she taught me are so engrained in me, I don't think I could ever live another way.

So here in NYC, 2,581 miles apart, I'd love to share with you my mom's advice, because all mom's know best and because I actually miss my mom so I think this will make her happy. :) With social distancing due to coronavirus, some of us don't have the privilege to be with them right now.  

1. You must always keep your sunglasses clean and free of smudges. It's your first impression on someone since your face is usually what is noticed first, and obvi sunglasses, if you're wearing any.

2. There should be no excuse for not taking off your makeup at night. (In high school I actually got yelled at if I did not.)

3. And you must ALWAYS moisturize. Serum, lotion, eye cream. Never too early to start. 

4. All clothes must be ironed and stored neatly. Otherwise, and I do a direct Russian translation here, "you look like a cow chewed your clothes."

5. There is never enough shoes, or Chanel, or Chanel shoes. 

6. A lady always has a well done manicure and pedicure because it's your signature. If your polish gets chipped, it must be removed. Clean hands and feet show the world you care about yourself and in turn, about others.

7. Wearing sunglasses to prevent wrinkles in any time of day. I'm not joking, my mom wears sunglasses even when it's raining in Seattle to prevent squiniting. Obviously, she has different types of colored lenses for different weather for safety.

8. Clean. Apparently cleaning actually does make a difference. 

9. Take a shower, even if it's in the middle of the day, it will always make you feel better even with what's happening in your life at the time. 

10. If you eat dessert, just tell yourself it won't make you fat. If you manifest it, it happens. (I'm still debating on this one but I try this theory out once in a while..)

11. Pull yourself together, you're strong.

12. If you're feeling sick, tea with honey and lemon will cure it.

13. Stop worrying about a break up and do some work. It turns out that indeed, working gives you a meditative state of "flow" and you forget about other things due to the brains inabilty to multitask and in result you don't worry about said break up. So again, Mother knows best.

 

Happy Mother's Day to all of the amazing moms out there! And even cat and dog moms, too :)

Mom and I at a Paris Fashion Week presenation 

04/29/2020
6 Positive Affirmations For Encouraging Self-Talk During Quarantine

04/29/2020

Imagine you have access to a space that is only yours, without any fear, anxiety or anger, and it’s always with you. The power of positive mantras is set let you set sail on a course that has only light and positivity.

I understand this is easier said than done, but it gets easier the more and more you repeat it to yourself.

Louise Hay first introduced me to this concept when I read her book, Mirror Work. I have then taken what she has taught me and made it my own. I repeat my positive mantras in the morning, whenever I have a moment to myself during the day, and before I go to bed.

Some of you know I have been taking Integrated Health classes at the University of Arizona. This is heavy inclination on self-care and meditation. 

Positive mantras can be anything that sets a positive intention, makes you feel good or grateful, or something you personally want to work on. There is no right or wrong. Do what feels right.

6 Positive Affirmations for Encouraging Self Talk During Quarantine

Today is a great day.

I am strong and nothing will hold me back.

I bring positive value to world

I let go of my fears and embrace my power.

I am worthy of self love

I choose to see the bright side in all situations

How do mantras help benefit us?

They serve as a pay of repetition that gets the mind into a meditative state to help becoming more present. Using mantras can help with dealing stress, anxiety, and calmness.  

Repeat these to yourself for 2-3 min at a time or write them down on a note to leave as a reminder or as a screen saver on your phone. 

 

I didn’t really believe in positive mantras until a few months ago but I truly have felt a difference. It mostly helps me now when I realize that I am on a train of negative thoughts, I repeat these mantras to myself and these mantas help guide me back to self love and peace. It’s like sun on a rainy day. 

 

04/29/2020
#StayAtHome Morning Routine

04/29/2020

My stay at home morning routine has shifted drastically since COVID-19 began. NYC is the epicenter of the crisis and it took a big toll on my mental state. After some weeks in distress, I decided to change my outlook and change my morning routine to help make a new “habit” of a normal day during quarantine days. Perhaps even make myself more productive (TBD). Everything we do is a habit, but when our brain becomes so used to said habit, it turns on autopilot and we feel like we have no other choice. In reality, we have control over our habits - it just takes time to identify them, change them, and keep up with the change for some period of time. Some say it takes 21 days to make a habit.

I often research the habits of successful people and as much as it inspires me to make a change, it makes me feel guilty if the next day I don’t follow their suggestions. Sometimes I end up being too tired to do anything but read or watch tv. I don’t know about you, but in quarantine I’m feeling lethargic. Even simple tasks like going for a run seem difficult. For a while, I felt like a failure and was beating myself up for not living up to my own “standards” every day. 

 

I decided to make a change. This quote really helped me shift gears:

 

“If you don’t run the day, the day will run you” ― Jim Rohn

 

RISE AND SHINE 

I always try to get 7-8 hours of sleep otherwise I’m a useless human. Sleep is the MOST important tool to stay healthy, beautiful, and sharp. I don’t know how other people can function without it. I’m always gentle with myself and assess how I’m feeling each morning. I start out my day reading the news on the iPhone app (topics range from politics, finance, culture). This is something I’ve practiced for years.

 

I always reach out to my family and friends in the morning to send good morning texts or reply to messages of the same sort. Always check emails and social, too. .After a long hard stretch, I stroll over to the kitchen to make myself some tea. No coffee for me during this quarantine. I usually opt for green tea since it has antioxidants and proven to help strengthen the immune system and helps keep to weight off.

 

After a couple of minutes of annoying my fiancé, I usually  start meditating. I don’t care how long I do it for, as long as I feel I've reached my desired intentions.

 

I try to envision what I want my day to look like or identifying my fears/anxieties and how I can tackle them. I tell myself that everything I want is on the other side of fear.

 

After meditation, sometimes I pick up a book for a quick read if I’m really glued to something at the time.

MOVING MY BODY IS A MUST

I’d love to say that I workout everyday (or even twice a day) since I have so much more time but really.. I don’t. It was clearly just a lie I told myself to procrastinate, who's with me? Two weeks ago, I started working with my trainer again via virtual training sessions 2 x week. I try to move daily - it ranges from yoga poses for stretching or a jog. It gives me a clear mind and I feel proud of myself. :)

 

I eat breakfast before or after working out, depends on my mood. It’s always the most tricky time of day for me since I eat mostly vegan. Today I cheated and had some dessert for breakie. It was a vegan non-bake cake I made yesterday. It has no sugar, dairy, or gluten. I added some caffeine to it so it really woke me up!

 

JOURNALING

I’ve never been one of those people to journal simply because it used to make me feel like a teenage girl but I’ve come across multiple studies that show it may be critical to well-being, especially during these troubling times. My therapist also suggested this tool in the beginning of the quarantine. I try to make time for it 3-4 times a week. I keep it as simple as possible and use the Notes app on my phone.

 

Although, I may have been too quick to judge, I do think I feel much more calm after writing. It helps me process events or emotions I have no time for during the day.It’s been a few days since I picked it up so perhaps I will divulge into this topic as I progress.

 

A NOTE TO YOU

I’m writing this to help or inspire you. By no means do I want to make you feel guilty or upset if you do not do the same things as I do. Trust me, during this quarantine I’ve spent mornings crying or just laying bed with disbelief. I think the most important thing is to love yourself, respect your emotions, and do what feels right each day.